Well, does my ex still love me? Hmmm, let’s think about that one for a minute. Ok! I’m done. Does it matter if your ex still loves you or not? I guess it could if you still had feelings for your ex. However, if she or he does still love you; then why are they your ex? Have you thought about that one yet?

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with wondering if someone still has feelings for you. Matter of fact, it is perfectly natural to wonder these things about a flame you once had. Heck, I have sat back and remembered 25 years ago in high school about a girl I dated, from our freshman year till our senior year, and wondered if she still had old feelings about me.

There is nothing wrong with thinking about the past every now and again. Just wondering… But then you come to the reality of it, and realize, “Hey, they are my ex for a reason”. However, if curiosity gets the best of you, go ahead and give it a shot. You will never know what will happen unless you do.

However, if you are willing to find out if that ex still has feelings for you; be ready for anything. Common sense will tell you anything can happen when you open up that door, my friend. And one of those things, which can happen, is you find both of you still have feelings for each other. You may be thinking “Wow! This is awesome?” Whoa! Hold on cowboy. What about your present life.

Are you in a relationship now? If so, is it worth opening up Pandora’s Box? Ask yourself: “Is your current relationship worth risking?” Once you open that door, then you may end up getting bitten twice. You take that chance, just to find out if your ex still loves you or not.

Ask yourself: “Is she or he worth the risk?” Are you prepared for the answer? Are you prepared for the possibility of your current partner finding out? After all, it may be a life altering experience. If it doesn’t go the way you had hoped; you just may have two people who don’t love you.

This is when you need to have a heart to heart with yourself. Is it really worth bringing up something that is supposed to be behind you? That person is your ex, and they are your ex for a reason. Whether, you broke it off or the other person did. The main point is you’re not together anymore; there is a reason for that.

So, when you are wondering does my ex still love me? Leave it at that, and just wonder. More than likely, if you try to find out, you will eventually find out again just why that person is your ex.

After the initial flush of romance that ushers in any relationship, it can sometimes be easy to take each other for granted. This can lead to apathy and, in many cases, the eventual breakdown of the relationship as you drift apart. It is very important that you both make an effort to maintain things between the two of you, and that you keep the magic alive by remembering to appreciate your significant other.

Remember the early days of you being together as a couple? Think back, and think of what first attracted you to each other, those things that first caught your attention. Your loved one still has those attributes. They are the same person, and so are you. Older and slightly wiser (I actually typed ‘wider’ by mistake just then- I guess either can apply!) you both may be, but you are still entitled to flush at the sight of your partner. There are many ways you can keep things starry-eyed for the both of you.

You could relive the early days of your time together- if not in the same place, then at least with similar activities. Go to a show, a restaurant, a film, a park, anywhere that will help you share special memories of your time together. Reminiscing should not be limited to Valentine’s Day! Perhaps you could book a day off work together, and just stay in, curtains drawn, talking about the past, present and future from the warmth of each other’s arms. Togetherness doesn’t have to be expensive.

The important thing is to think more about each other than superficial, material things. The people involved in the relationship are much more important than status symbols or indeed anything else. Appreciate each other, treat each other with respect and affection, and the magic will never fade.